Friday, April 3, 2015

MEN’S MENTAL BOXES AND WOMEN’S MULTIVERSE






There has always been a dialogue about the difference between men and women (Women are from Venus, men are from Mars – or Uranus if you prefer.)  
   
The politically correct answer is that there is no difference in boys and girls.   Only that boys and girls are nurtured differently.   

But anybody who has ever worked with kindergarten children knows that is bullshit.   For the most part, men’s and women’s brains are wired differently from the very beginning.


  
Men compartmentalize their brains – we are good at doing one thing at a time.   Women tend to multitask.
 
My wife will tell me to carry the garbage out, and she will add ‘while you are at it, take out the recyclable bottles and put a new trash bag in the garbage can.'     (I have to be told each step because I can’t see the connections.)
  
I will say ‘OK.’  And then I will take out the garbage, then I will come back in and take out the recyclable bottles, then I will come back in and put a new bag in the garbage can. 

This drives her nutz.   Why don’t I just juggle it all at once like she said and save the trips – and while I am at it clean out the mud room?
  
Because I am not wired that way.



Our bathroom is directly off our living room.     She will begin vacuuming in the living room and then stop and clean out the sink in the bathroom, clean the toilet, replace the toilet paper, refold the towels – then continue vacuuming, but stop and dust the bookshelves and the TV… and two hours later she is frustrated because she still hasn't finished vacuuming.   She cannot do one thing at a time because her brain constantly multitask – that is the way she is wired.
 
Now if I am vacuuming and the sink is dirty; that sink is going to stay dirty until I finish vacuuming and then I will clean it – if I remember it.



Anyone that is married knows there are many differences in men and women:



that is why women can relate to other women… and men can relate to men – but men and women can’t relate – only understand. 




The Ol’Buzzard

4 comments:

  1. Great post. If only I could get my husband to believe it!

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  2. I'm so glad..I thought it was just me.

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  3. When I clean house I do it room by room as I move through the house. I start a laundry load clean the kitchen, move to the living room and dust, vacuum, and mop. Then I move into the bathroom and clean it, and then move into the bedroom. By the time I finish cleaning, I have done two loads of laundry. Only then can I sit down and rest my back on the heating pad. It's usually about 9 am and I make myself coffee and read blogs and write mine. I don't have to do anything else until 4 in the afternoon, which is start dinner. The whole time my mind is humming along with all kinds of shit I need to get done. You know, the over 2000 tabs open on the browser idea.

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  4. I agree totally that men and women are very different, not just in areas of plumbing. That is not, as you point out very PC. It does not mean girls should have dolls and boys trucks. My 2 year old granddaughter put her little doll in her truck and pushed the truck around today at our place. But it does mean that their brains are wired differently I agree.

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